How to Create a Safe Relationship

We try to love somebody from our own separate perspective. We spend so much time trying to give them love in ways they don't actually receive love. To truly own something is to see it as part of yourself, here's that theme again. It becomes impossible to hurt that thing without hurting yourself. When we do not own one another as part of ourselves, we feel no responsibility to them. Ownership is a critical part of creating safety in relationship. Nothing makes us feel more unsafe in relationships than abandonment.