Is there an issue from the past that keeps coming up? Or an ongoing conflict that can’t seem to get resolved? In this episode we explore effective approaches for couples seeking to resolve long standing issues and conflicts that resurface over time. We share our advice to a couple who is struggling with an incident that happened over 20 years ago, and also share an example of where we personally got stuck in our own marriage, related to our wedding date, and how we finally came to clarity.

“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer.

(00:00) - Finding shared desire in resolving ongoing conflicts

(04:11) - Exploring deeper, unspoken issues in repetitive arguments

(05:18) - The role of trauma therapy in resolving unresolved emotional conflicts

(07:00) - Explicit agreements in resolving recurring issues

(08:53) - Real-life example to illustrate conflict resolution strategies

(11:02) - Understanding your partner's unspoken feelings

(14:41) - Commitment to 'abundant repair' after conflicts for deeper connection

(17:45) - Listening generously and validating your partner’s feelings

(19:53) - Fully understanding and addressing recurring issues

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