Is This a Play on Jacques Lacin's Idea That Men Have the Palas, While Women Are the Pallus?

The title of the show, being and having was a play on psychoanalyst jacques lacin's idea that men have the palas, while women, as the embodiment of erotic desire and art, are the pallus. I met anne marie smith in canada at a bar; she had been making postcards with a friend,. al that were really awesome erotic postcards from this collective in canada. And i'm sorry, i don't remember the collective's name any more. But then it started a very long friendship and love affair with annemarie smith including the portrait that's on the bed, the self portraits on our bed when she came