The wind of the present will shift your memory, right? It's like what's happening right now is going to affect how you remember something a year ago. Every time we kind of reconstruct memories, every time we summon them, and memories themselves are somewhat collaborative endeavors. And if you think of the self as a function of your memories of the past, then you certainly have to think of yourself as incredibly flexible.
You are not autonomous. You are not an island unto yourself. You, my friend, are a social construct. The “self” you haul around — that yammering voice in your head — was entirely shaped by your relationships and social interactions. That may be upsetting for "you" to hear. But our guest today, Brian Lowery, prefers to see it as pleasantly humbling because if you can learn to let go of the idea that you have an essential self, you can embrace a more expansive view of who you are and who you can be.
Brian Lowery is a professor of organizational behavior at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. His new book is “Selfless: The Social Creation of ‘You.’”
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