The Structure of Thescapegoat Syndrome

The most obvious indicator for any couples therapist that there's really a problem at home is when the couple come in for an interview and he says something and she says, oh, that's what you always say. I'm so sick of hearing that. In other words, here's a couple for whom the questions are all excruciatingly obvious, the answer to all of them. What's terrible is that there's nothing unknown here at all. There's no opening. It's because you think you've heard it all. And you're disgusted by what you ceaselessly heard from the other. That's when you know the love relations really over in a certain sense is when the unknown and