The Toxic Idea That Our Sexual Partners Stay With Us

"It makes sense that we say, oh, I don't want Blake to show up in all of my relationships moving forward. This feels really unfair," she says. "When we choose to look at it that way, even if it's very reasonable in the moment of our pain ... It denies us so many other things." She asks: How do we strike the balance between saying Blake is not going to be with you forever? And how do we also make spaces of the fact that time heals a lot?"