The difference I guess comes if your kids just a total fuck up and then I don't then I'm not sure what you do we didn't play with a wonderful great child who wasn't. And but what an awful turn it is and self-fulfilling prophecy it is when they start to get the sense that their parents think they don't have itYou're going to have to be a person with great kindness and patience, he says. It's much more likely that you're too judgmental and not patient enough than it is that you'reToo permissive and tolerant.