There is a space between what's in our head and any communication with someone else, that there's a space there to be completely raw. I remember one of the loveliest things I discovered in my research with the book is Steve Peters, the chimp paradox author. And apparently he had a rule that any athlete could complain at him for 15 minutes without stopping. Nobody ever could. But if you actually properly give yourself permission to ram on paper, after about a couple of minutes, you've said all you've got to say and it starts to feel quite boring. Maybe that's the route to the magic, but you actually end up starting to come more solution-focused.