The Power of Blame

There's a sense of desperation and so that depending on how far out you can get on the continuum, that desperation can come out pretty, pretty intense. And when you're in that state where you're overly activated, really what works with that is for people to come towards us - even though unintentionally we're pushing them away. So often it's seen as it can be felt as clingy. A clingy, angry. Those are the kinds of adjectives often. Just like the on the blue side, it's more about independence and being zipped up and kind of being too much alone. On the red side, it’s more about fear of being alone and not quite