The Importance of Separation in a Romantic Partnership

Episode Highlights With Kiana

• How she is also a doula and how she got into female sexual health
• Her work as a somatic therapist
• The importance of pleasure in our lives and how it impacts wellbeing and relationships beyond just physical pleasure or sexuality
• How the nervous system is like the window through which we see the world and how this can make it difficult to identify if it is dysregulated
• Ways to help regulate the nervous system and help the body feel safe
• Healthy vs unhealthy nervous system regulation
• Two ways to work with the nervous system and when to use each
• How sexual pleasure relates to nervous system last
• The connection between sexual and emotional intimacy
• Differences between the two types of desire and what responsive desire is
• Why it can often take the female body 15-40 minutes to reach peak arousal and how this is often different than it is for males
• Some exercises we can do to help reconnect with our body and our sexual experience
• What sexual polarity is and how to nurture it in long term partnerships
• How to nurture dynamic tension in partnership

Resources We Mention

• Foria Products
• Where Should We Begin?: The Arc of Love by Esther Perel
• The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
• Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure by Sheri Winston CNM. RN. BSN. LMT
• Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estés