The Negative Self Judging of Your Partner

The reading the mind thing becomes like this either or situation. Both people are sitting there waiting for the other person to figure out what it is they're needing and then go ahead and meet it. It creates a really negative self judgment of your partner that's, that's not fair because you're judging them on something they don't even really know is going on. Then, and I think too, then you end up craving affection. You end up creating craving praise. If we're not getting it from our partner, then we start to get it from external sources. And that's where the boundaries start to become muddy.