Relationships and Attachment

The biggest transformation is always in relationship where you really have to deal with your own stuff. When we are our authentic selves we are putting that attachment at risk somehow it took me a lifetime and perhaps even the death of my mother to fully inhabit my authentic self because it was going to deeply threaten what I needed so badly. Tension between attachment and authenticity is a major theme in a lot of people's lives there's no bargain with me parents and child ideally speaking here's what I have to do that my mother loved me or my father accept me.