Collaborating With a Perfectionist

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Perfections can be a real pain in the neck to work with. So one thingwhen you're working with the perfectionist is to not eternalise their expectations. And i think, just oknow, terms of limit setting, sometimes you have to create your own limits that you'll have to decide for yourself. If somebody's going to emal me at all sorts of hours, i'm not actually going to respond till monday morning,. and i'm going to kind of try and shape their behaviour or give them some some messages about how they should behave.

If you’ve worked your way up in a competitive field — or are anxious by nature — you may have perfectionist tendencies. Maybe you’re a hard-driving, obsessive worker who thinks a task is never quite done. Or maybe you’re avoidant, struggling to start a project because you want it to be done just right.

We all know society holds women to a higher standard than men and rewards us for not making mistakes. But internalizing other people’s expectations — or what we think they expect — will only burn us out. To keep rising in our careers, we need to get in tune with our own standards for what’s a good, or good enough, job.

It is possible to keep our perfectionist tendencies under control. We talk through tactics with Alice Boyes, a former clinical psychologist turned writer and author.

Our HBR reading list:

“How Perfectionists Can Get Out of Their Own Way,” by Alice Boyes

“How to Focus on What’s Important, Not Just What’s Urgent,” by Alice Boyes

“How to Collaborate with a Perfectionist,” by Alice Boyes

“Perfectionism Is Increasing, and That’s Not Good News,” by Thomas Curran and Andrew P. Hill

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