There's a a couple things in this chapter that seem kind of contradictory to me. I i jotted down those same three things in my min not file, and i also don't know what to do with them. This last one though watch out for unhelpful thoughts. What's an unhelpful thought? She gives some examples. It's all my fault. Life is unfair. I should be over this already. But i i think there's a whole bunch more that you could add to this list. And the thing that’s going to make it unhelpful is whether it forces or encourages. Not forces, i think the thoughts that you think um will keep you