Relationships - Do You Have Conflicting Objectives?

I believe people have sort of contradicting objectives. We put a condition on how we feel so i will only feel secure when i will be married, when i will have a safe job. I don't think anything that is external can ever contribute to your sense of security. A true sense of security comes from knowing who you are. And feeling secure within yourself, it's when you can provide that nest for yourself. It's not ignoring yourself, not divorcing yourself, not rejecting herself. That's the true sense ofSecurity.