The Importance of Making Peace With Yourself

integration is to make peace with yeah a bunch of that didn't work and I'm gonna have to leave it behind as some of it was downright abusive or maybe for it was just all a giant train wreck. You still begin with is there anything that worked on me so for example puberty how many of you went through puberty excellent 100% show of hands so good are you against puberty do you wish you wouldn't have gone through puberty do you want to go through puberty now no thank God right a little wobbly in there would you agree? The developmental move is similar when you find that the group think the language and customs of the tribe the conventional wisdom you're moving beyond it central to your