"I'm trying to overlay my own experiences, you know, kind of parallel to yours and just thinking about things," he says. "One of the things that I got incredibly lucky with was when we got home from Ramani,. Number one, I had a wife and three kids all at the optimum age." He adds: "They're young enough that they're looking at you like you're a superhero ... And I can see in their eyes, like they're people"