How Do You Diversify Your Identity?

In an ideal world, our sense of self esteem wouldn't come from anything external at all. But in real life, we all have our identity tied up in various different things. And i find that for me to kind of hang my identity off various different things, rather than just on being the guy with good grades or what he used to be in school, has been really helpful. If you're loking for specific book recommendation, i'll chuck in one recommendation on top of that, tis the courage to be disliked by austin cleyon.