Embracing Self-Friendliness

This chapter examines the significance of self-friendliness and the hurdles individuals encounter in their self-perception, comparing it to the kindness shown to others. Through anecdotes, including one about the Dalai Lama's insights on self-hatred, the discussion promotes treating oneself with compassion. Additionally, it emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries in relationships to enhance self-value and personal well-being.

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Elizabeth Gilbert is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Big Magic and Eat, Pray, Love as well as several other international bestsellers. Her latest novel, City of Girls, was named an instant New York Times bestseller. Go to ElizabethGilbert.Substack.com to subscribe to “Letters From Love with Elizabeth Gilbert,” her newsletter, which has more than 120,000 subscribers.

This episode was originally published in September 2024. Show notes and links: https://tim.blog/2024/09/26/elizabeth-gilbert-2/

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Timestamps:

[00:00:00] Who is Elizabeth Gilbert?

[00:05:42] No cherished outcomes.

[00:10:55] Self-compassionate ownership of responsibility.

[00:15:52] The daily practice of writing letters from love.

[00:22:22] Two-way prayer vs. one-way prayer.

[00:30:57] The male approach to this practice.

[00:34:27] How do you feel toward yourself vs. about yourself?

[00:36:53] Understanding self-hatred to foster self-friendliness.

[00:43:20] Setting boundaries and dealing with those who refuse to honor them.

[00:50:15] Why (and how) Elizabeth avoids big family holiday gatherings.

[00:52:15] Comfort in solitude.