The Making of Men in Australia

I don't think i felt a sense of myself as er, as a man that i can trust, till i was in my fifties. I'd actually made an unconscious deal with my mum, never to be a man because she was so hurt by my dad. It's like the most loyal thing i can do for you is never become a man because you hate men so much and you've been so hurt by men. And tdidn't help anyone. The denial of it was useless. But it would have helped if someone had told me, right, you're a man now. You know this is a responsibility and you can have to take rather than, oh, god,