How Do You Tell Someone That You Love So Deeply That They Are Enormous?

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Keaton: I have a boyfriend of about five years who gets so very interested in niche topics and loves to share what he's learned with me, which I love. But my word, can he go on and on? It just so happens that he picks the moments where I'm doing the dishes or making the bed or I'm actively involved in something and he will just talk at me. So am I the problem? Is it my issue that my brain and ears like grow legs and run away from the situation when he starts telling me about a new political issue that he's discovered? Give me any advice you have or just tell me I'm the problem and shut up. Love you

1. What we are really fighting about when we’re fighting about the dishwasher.

2. We can stop asking whether what’s missing is a “want” or a “need” – and the question to ask instead.

3. How to use what most frustrates you about your partner to bring you closer.

4. How to start thinking of our partnerships as our own mini political systems.

5. What to do if your partner won’t go to therapy, or if you’re feeling invisible in your relationship.

About Dr. Guralnik:

Dr. Orna Guralnik is a psychoanalyst and writer, who serves on the faculty of NYU PostDoc, National Institute for the Psychotherapies, the Stephen Mitchel Center, and the editorial boards of Psychoanalytic Dialogues and Studies in Gender & Sexuality. Her writing centers on the intersection of psychoanalysis, dissociation, and cultural studies. She has completed the filming of four seasons of the Docu-series Couples Therapy, airing on Showtime.

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