If you experience relationship anxiety, you might be familiar with the urge to try to change your partner so that you can feel better about your decision to be with them, and stop doubting the relationship so much! You’re not alone. It can be so hard to change this pattern, but I believe it can be done with some determination, patience, and humility. This episode can help you trust your partner (and your decisions) more, restore intimacy and closeness, and start moving you in the direction of the relationship you desire.
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Email me at natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com to inquire about my retreats in Austria with my meditation teacher, Stefi Preiss, this summer.
5:42- Keeping your eyes on your paper and cleaning up your side of the street
6:30 -Feeling like you picked the wrong partner
10:00 - The three things I thought I could do to change my partner
16:30 - My desire for my partner to change
19:05 - Moving into the future and making empowering changes for yourself
20:25 - Your partner will not change if you try to change them
21:43 - Developing self-trust by overcoming adversity
23:00 - Imagine your inner controller who wants to control everything
24:00 - What are you afraid would happen if you stopped trying to control your partner?
26:00 - Some of the different methods of control that we use to control our partners
36:19 - The power of letting your partner make clean up their own messes
43:04 - “I will criticize my partner when I have stopped doing XYZ”
45:50 - The difference between wanting to delight you and not disappointing you
50:35 - Starting the Anxious Love Coach Patreon Fam
57:30 - Email me for more info on my Austria retreats in June and September
