In internal family systems, they call it your exile. It's like the soft part of you that got wounded and then put into exile and a protector got put in place. And when you see Eckhart Tolle or you see Byron Katie and we've been privileged to see them,. They're talking about the true strength is the defenseless. You can only re merge with that exile by going through the protector first. If you try to just go straight to the exile, the protector will flare up even more.