The Lightning Network Is a Network That You Don't Control, So How Do You Dab It Money?

The difference between venmo and a strike is that venmo controls their monetary network, so they can dab it your a c h. But when you are dealing with the lightning network is a network that you don't yourself control. So how do you dab it money from someone the lighting ouer payment fails? How do you refund them? And at the time, i was just like, fok, that sounds complicated. It's actually actively being built now. I really kicking ass nowadays.