The easiest pain for one human being to ignore is the pain that they cause. The biggest deniers of me hurting you are parents towards their children. If you want to see really, really, really strong deni denial, talk to a parent about how they hurt their children and you'll see the strongest denial in the world. And this is where i think a big part of like, moving past things is actual admitting that hurt happened - then you can really forgive people.