I Don't Want the Niger, but You Want the Title

Our writer says, because of my past, i'm still a little insecure. It's hard for me to know if i'm being rational in thinking that. Am I right? Or am i wiling? Is the time we spend together more valuable than being called one word? or is being a friends wih benefits witha a nigger's way to knot commit and feel as bad when they want to break things off?"