If there's something deficient in you, andyou try to fix that through a relationship, that relationship is less likely to succeed numbeone when you use a relationship to solve your problems. When your relationship becomes the primary source for meeting your personal needs, that's when things become a problem. And i'm not saying that romantic relationships can't beet, you know, financial support and stuff can't be a part of those. But in my experience, it's like your starting off with a handicap. If i am using a romantic relationship as a means of financial support, independence, housing, things like that, more doomed to failure,. Not a hundred % doomed, doomd to failure