i don't like the idea of somebody going about their relationship kind of constantly in fear of their or getting mad at them. i think it's a good idea to have conversations around how to healthily express that you're not happy about something the other one is doing. If he's not mad at you, what is actually going on? Once you make up, do you feel like, oh, hii've learned that he doesn't like this, or, i've learned that when i do this, this is like something that he can't deal with?"