Don't tell your wife to calm down. That's not a good move does not a strategic so you can see how emotions play into each one of those elements that I just talked about Yeah So I have oh by the way, I have to know my emotions too,. right if I've got some Massive task and I know I'm already drained or Angry about it If I've gotSome delicate if I'm mad at you and yet I've got to go and discuss a project with you And I'm already mad that you didn't do something is that a good time for me to go in there and talk to you? No, it's not so What I need to do and a way