Women as Deacons in the Church

There's two main passages that we need to look at Roman 16 1 to 2 with Phoebe because he's called a deacon was he just described as being a servant or as deacon there being used to describe the position of leadership. And then 1 Timothy 311 which refers to either female deacons or wives of male deacons. I don't know I've got my metaphor fell apart. You know I'm saying like it's just more there's more pieces here we need to put together before we just say women household leaders therefore overseers.