Love Is a Verb

Stephanie Coontz: Reactive language becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. People become reinforced in the paradise that they are determined, she says. If our feelings control our actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so. Love her, serve her, sacrifice, listen to her, ampathize, appreciate, affirm her said Coontz. But how do you love when you don't love? My friend, love is a verb. So love the feeling is a fruit of love, the verb.