Sally Kohn: One thing that I noticed with college was that it felt like I was picking options from a fast food menu and that they just got narrower and narrower. She says the way she studied in high school wasn't going to be sufficient, so she wanted to put together her own menu. Kohn: There's so much value in stepping back and asking, what do I want? What do I actually want? And then going off menu, like asking for what you want.