When Parents Aren't Seen as the Problem

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In a groundbreaking conversation about one of the fastest-growing cultural shifts of our time: Oprah talks with leading experts and a live audience about the decision to go “no contact” with a family member. It’s estimated one third of Americans have cut off ties or is estranged from their family. Once considered taboo, family estrangement is now being openly discussed by people of all ages who are redefining what healthy boundaries look like in family relationships. In this revealing episode, Oprah and best-selling psychologists unpack this rising trend of people distancing themselves from parents, siblings, or relatives they consider toxic. Adult children and parents who have chosen to go "no contact” share their stories and their reasons behind this difficult decision. Oprah and the audience explore the emotional, cultural and psychological issues behind the movement - ranging from trauma and generational patterns to mental-health awareness and the expanded definition of abuse.

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Chapters:

00:01:00 - One-third of Americans are going no contact—what it means

00:02:00 - Younger generations choosing no contact for mental health

00:02:50 - Guest: Dr. Joshua Coleman, Rules of Estrangement

00:03:40 - How the concept of family has shifted

00:06:27 - Guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

00:09:30 - How to tell if a parent is emotionally immature

00:10:25 - Guest: Nedra Tawwab, Drama Free

00:12:20 - Dr. Coleman on his daughter cutting contact

00:14:22 - Chris shares going no contact

00:18:48 - Why Chris made the decision

00:19:30 - Talking to kids about going no contact

00:23:04 - What kids learn from cutting off difficult relatives

00:24:39 - Bristyl shares her no-contact story

00:26:20 - Will the longing for a mother–daughter bond fade?

00:29:00 - Expanded definitions of harm, neglect, trauma, abuse

00:30:00 - Bree shares her no-contact choice

00:33:37 - Is forgiveness possible?

00:37:26 - Christy shares her daughter’s estrangement

00:39:40 - Do some estranged kids lack conflict resolution skills?

00:43:20 - Kendall on going no contact with her adult son

00:44:50 - Why parents are criticized for going no contact

00:47:20 - Aaron shares his daughter cut ties with him

00:53:25 - Have we gone too far?

00:54:48 - The one thing that can save your family relationship

00:58:10 - There are separate realities in every family

01:00:17 - Hadley shares her experience as a hospice nurse

01:05:00 - Why Hadley went no contact

01:09:00 - Parent child dynamic has shifted from role to relationship

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