The Conflicts of Other People

I think what often happens in the kind of the conventional parenting is that you just kind of assume that it's this sort of this in so like there's just going to be a fight and like we have to like learn to compromise. What do you see happening when you look at the conflicts of other people that aren't as steeped in this way of doing things? There's a kind of a pessimism. And a. I think there's a fear of being hurt a lot of the time Like, if I don't do this coercive thing, then I'm going to get hurt or like, or I won't be able to have this thing that's important for my feelings of happiness