How to Deal With Anger and Fear

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Fear and anger have the opposite action propensities. Fear is an avoidance emotion, whereas anger is an approach emotion. People with high fear often find they have to also take specific steps like scripting out in an things ay're going to say. The problem with anger is you're likely to be quite unskilful offensive,. And here i'll tell a story about myself. A number of years ago, having made the classic mistake of firing off some emales when i was upset, i learned that you can actually set a the outlook timer to basically hold all emales you send in the out box for any designated number of minutes or hours.

Jim Detert discusses how to build your courage to stand out and influence.

— YOU’LL LEARN —

1) Why acting courageously is easier than you think

2) The four fears that keep us from acting courageously

3) The most effective way to get others to listen to you

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— ABOUT JIM —

Jim Detert (PhD, Harvard) is the John L. Colley Professor of Business Administration at the University of Virginia's Darden School of Business. Detert's research focuses on employee voice and other forms of workplace courage, experiential leadership development, and ethical decision-making and behavior. His research has won several academic best-paper awards, and his teaching and curriculum development have also won multiple awards at UVA and Cornell.

• Jim’s book: Choosing Courage: The Everyday Guide to Being Brave at Work

• Jim’s article: "Words and Phrases to Avoid in a Difficult Conversation"

• Jim’s LinkedIn: Jim Detert

• Jim’s website: JimDetert.com

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW —

• Study: Milgram Experiment

• Study: Asch Conformity Experiments

• Book: Nineteen Eighty-Four by George Orwell

• Book: Brave New World by Aldous Huxley

• Book: Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality by Anthony De Mello

• Book: Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity by Kim Scott

• Personality: Chris Argyris