If a child in an adolescent has had little or no adversity in their lives, they will end up more emotionally vulnerable as a young adult. Why is that? Well, it's because they've never had the experience of dealing with failure, with anxiety, with feeling low. So over protecting our children is not a good idea and doing everything for them. And if you've never in your past life or very seldom had very little experience of the downside like that, these feelings of anxiety and of low mood can really feel alien and terrifying.
Episode 198: Ian Robertson - The Winner Effect AND How Stress Can Make You Better
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"Success breeds success. The mere act of winning makes it more likely you'll win again."
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
- Common themes of leaders who sustain excellence:
- Ability to set goals -- Not too big but not too easy
- Self belief -- Self Confidence
- Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic motivation
- There will always be someone better than you. The focus should be on improving your own self
- Why Elon Musk and Steve Jobs transcend the norms
- "A lot of people suffered in Steve Jobs desire to build those products"
- Steve and Elon are anomalies, not the norm
- "To be #1 in the industry is NOT a good goal"
- What happens to lottery winners a year later? -- "Ashes in your mouth"
- How the brain is complex
- What it means to be a bad dad -- Pablo Picasso
- "Success conveys power... Power changes your brain. It creates narcissism"
- Bad Dad's "hide the ladder." They get up the tree, then do not show others how they got there.
- "Keep a ladder down for others"
- "They must see that it's not God Like... That they can do it"
- Study: Kids -- Those who believe they can do better and influence their IQ, do better in school.
- With fixed mindset, failure hurts the ego
- How can stress make you stronger?
- Tiger Woods example -- Being nervous before a competition is a good thing (with the right mindset)
- If you have a big presentation and you say to yourself, "I'm nervous." You'll do worse than if you say "I'm really excited."
- Adopting a challenge mindset, visualizing the reward
- "Create a challenge mindset"
- If you're nervous, don't say "I feel calm." That's not true and your brain knows it. Instead, say "I'm excited." Use that energy for good.
- Using the Joe Buck "So What" method -- It can help with irrational fear of disapproval
- Can too much happiness be bad for you? -- Yes, over protecting our children can be bad. They need to experience adversity.
- "Leaders by definition have to have a vision."
"Success conveys power... Power changes your brain."
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