Nicole: I feel like there are assumptions about how people who don't have children spend their time. Tracy: It's just that because you're not taking care of children or you don't have family responsibilities, what you're doing outside of work can be seen as more frivolous. And so sometimes I just hear what coworkers think I do outside of my work and it's like they think I'm at the club all the time.
If you aren’t married and don’t have kids, people at work might assume a lot of things: that you can stay late at the office, that you can’t possibly understand their stories about parenthood, that you just haven’t found the right partner (ugh). But those assumptions are often false. Single childless women have busy lives, close relationships with children like nieces or nephews — and many don’t want coupledom or motherhood.
We talk to two women who’ve been researching and writing about being a single childless professional. The writer Shani Silver shares her experience with the career pros and cons, and then Tracy Dumas, a professor at Ohio State University, gives research-backed advice for responding to bias and unrealistic expectations.
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