It takes between two and three seconds for your neurophysiologic system to take on the full weight of what it is no matter how small or big the moment of humiliation is. When someone pays you a compliment, I want you to pause them. So say hey, thank you so much for dropping me off. Here's another exercise that we give people. This really just practices or not. You do this because Kurt's asking us to do it. They come back seven days later and here's what they reported consistently. By about day four or five they will report that they are already waiting and anticipating for when their spouse is going to say to them what it is that their spouse is grateful