When we reduce our own guilt and shame, it allows us to reduce the judgment we feel toward others. It has been a really important healing in our marriage. For me, and i've talked about how i struggle with tenacity, it's one of my frustrations. And since, you know, we we discover this model and everything, i've actually gotten a lot more effective working in that area. Just s i know what it is, i understand why i'm not good at it.