I think self care, we, we so often er feel guilt around self care. We feel undeserving of self care. I'm thinking of one of my best mates at the moment. I i'm going to der that they listen to this episode of the podcast, because they'e, they're going through this at the moment, making a decision around work, and finding the self care choice. Excruciating because they feel they need to put family first. Er, on a practical level to some extent. But also, you know, who are they to be making this sort of choice? I think most of us have experienced that in life. We think, now i have to suffer, have to continue this struggle, because i don't deserve any better.

Ye, i hear it in all fields. I think. Though er back to that sort of idea, what agency you have, you know, whatever the choice is. And for your friend that you're talking about, you know, if you treat it as a performance to survive, you know, if i think about this in sports terms, if an athlete goes out and they're like, i'm just going t hang on by my finger nails, clench my fists and get through it. I know how to get through it, right? You actually miss the whole thing. Fat you miss a lot of your life, you know, you'r you're just performing. Youre not living. You're just performing. And that's a really, really high cost to pay. So, you know, with the agency piece, if you don't have the option to leave, if you genuinely don't feel like you have the option to leave, how do you stopr forming? How do you become less of a performer and actually be more of a human being expressing their talent, expressing their brilliance.