We're stuck in this ambivolene. Part of us that wants to change, part of us that doesn't want to change. And the truth of the matter is that the cost of changing is higher than the cost of staying the same. The more you throw your life away, think about how much the heroine has to give you in order to pay that price. So instead of ignoring it, realize, ok, i'm really getting something s then you can actually make a choice - but you have to know what you're paying for up front.