Build Stronger Relationships with John Kim & Vanessa Bennett
The Man Enough Podcast
The Difference Between Caretaking and Caregiving
"There is a line when it tips over and somebody can say but I do all of these things but who are you really doing it for," she says. "I truly believe we're all codependency ... my life becomes your life like we're not our own separate beings Codependency really is just simply this if you're good I'm good if you are not good I'm not good that's it"
John Kim (aka "The Angry Therapist") and Vanessa Bennet are world-class relationship therapists, podcast hosts, bestselling authors AND life partners. The couple joins Jamey, Liz and guest host Andy Grammer for a vulnerable and eye-opening conversation about the messy work of relationships.
John and Vanessa break down red flags in dating, therapy for men, how to set healthy boundaries for yourself and others, tapping into masculine & feminine energy, and how to navigate mismatched desires within couples.
Plus, don't miss a sneak peek of an unreleased song from Andy at the end.
New episodes every Monday 🎙️ The video version of every episode and bonus features will always be available on the @wearemanenough YouTube channel: https://youtube.com/WeAreManEnough
The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.
Read It’s Not Me It’s You
Together, John & Vanessa have written this book, analyzing their own relationship to help untangle the common and frustrating barriers many individuals face on the road to a happy, loving, rewarding partnership.
About John Kim & Vanessa Bennett:
John Kim, also known as The Angry Therapist, is a published writer, speaker, life coach, and a co-founder of The TAT Lab and Lumia–Life Coach Training and Community. He built a coaching team of his own and launched a sister company called JRNI, creating a new way to help people.
Vanessa Bennett is an author, holistic psychotherapist, and codependency expert. Her therapeutic approach integrates years of study and practice in Depth, Buddhist, and Yoga Psychology. She co-hosts the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast, leads soul-based retreats and workshops, and creates and facilitates curriculum for non-profit and corporate events and conferences.
Show Notes
00:00 Episode Starts
02:36 Intros
07:34 Red Flags In Dating
09:58 The Misconception of The One
15:36 Why Men Don’t Champion Therapy
19:05 Cutting Boys Off From Their Emotional Selves
27:22 Holding Your Friends Accountable
43:48 Caregiving vs Caretaking
48:34 John’s Poem
51:56 Disconnected Desires
01:06:22 From Judgment to Curiosity
01:09:22 Andy’s Song
01:13:31 What Does it Mean to be Man Enough
Key Quotes from the Episode:
“Taking a second to ask ‘what else could be true?’ is incredibly helpful in relationships…it turns the dial from Judgement to Curiosity” - Vanessa Bennett & John Kim
“It’s important to have conversations in locker rooms, be the trojan horse, if you’re there and you’ve gone through some type of hero’s journey then you need to lead by example…share it with your friends.” - John Kim
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John Kim
- Instagram: @theangrytherapist
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Vanessa Bennett
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- Facebook:@vanessabennettcoaching
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