The Fear of Not Wanting to Hurt Someone

"When you're a boy and you're going out with girls, when the person that you're interested in is young, I think you're allowed to be a jerk," he says. "But when you become an adult and you are dating and vule-vuling with other adults, no matter what bolt of cloth you're cut from, I think one must be hyper-honest." His advice: Don't put another person through pain if you can at all avoid it.