And most of

the time I do a good job with it and when not she just puts the CD back in and incurs me to listen to it again. So let's take a look at the love in relationships. I think this would be powerful. With the children, well, let me just give you a few very simple basics. Rude without a relationship, folks, leads to rebellion. The things that you need to do with a child, you need to love them unconditionally. Not because they're handsome or beautiful or pick up everything on the floor, not because they're a blonde brunette or even a redhead. You love them unconditionally whether they make asers or else if they ever think that your love is going to be dependent on their performance. You have an insecure child, unconditional love. Number two, starting in the day properly with them. Wake into your child as you took them out of bed when they were just infants, kindly, lovingly, gently and slowly. Make an extra five minutes. That's all it'll take. Go in their room after knocking on the door and making certain they're not in a state of undress. The first time you do this, you want to tell them in advance you've got a surprise for you tomorrow morning. Sit on the side of the bed and stroke their hair depending on their age. Lean over and kiss them and say, oh, I just love you so much. I'm glad that God sent you to live with us. You're so beautiful. Today is going to be a wonderful day. You're going to learn a lot of things, going to have some fun. And this evening I can't wait for you to get home and tell me some of the things you learned and what you did. Start their day that way. At night, if bedtime is nine o'clock at 8.30, say, now, you know at nine o'clock we go to bed. If you need to put the cat out and bring you bicycle in and call Charlie about the assignment, that both drinks the water and takes all three trips to the bathroom because at nine o'clock we go to bed. At nine o'clock you turn the television set off. No put them to bed during the commercial. That's the ultimate insult. You're saying, look, kid, I really love you, but hey, that's a good program coming on next. The message is horrible. Now, understand we raised four so we know something about the way children are. Ladies con artists on earth are roughly between ages six and 13. They're amazing. They have the capacity to rest with all the power that their disposal is going to bed. And then nine hours later they have developed a relationship and a attachment, a romance, a love for that bed that makes them inseparable. We understand that about those things. We also understand that on the way to bed they're already thinking about when you lead them back there. They're thinking about all the silly questions they can ask you. Let them, because after about five minutes of it they will grow weary of the game. Then in the next ten minutes you can bond with your child more than you've been able to do all day long. It makes a huge difference. Give it a try. Not the day properly, in the day properly, the time in between will be so much better. And teach them the manners. We talked about that a little bit earlier. Teach them the simple little things that will make them more accepted out in the community. They'll make friends when they get away from being self-centered and concentrate on the other. Step number four, follow the example of the Jews. Here's an interesting fact. Bill Glass has been in 350 plus prisons. Many of them many, many times. Bill Glass, ladies and gentlemen, has talked to thousands of men one on one in prisons. He said, he has never found a single person incarcerated who really loved their fathers. Not even one. And most of hate their fathers. They take their hate out on you and me. Ninety-four percent of the people incarcerated are men. We can build all the jails and prisons we want to. We can hire all the police people we want to. We can pass all the laws, hire all the judges we want to. We will never solve the crime problem until we solve the father-son problem. That's where the Jews have really done something extraordinary. In Florida, for example, there are 40,000 people incarcerated. Ninety-four percent of them are Jews. Thirteen of them, not thirteen thousand. Thirteen out of forty thousand are Jews. In Arkansas, it's seven out of seventy-five hundred better Jews. In the one military study, they did three out of thirty-six thousand were Jews and two of them said the other one wasn't. Now, now, what do they do that makes such a difference? They do three things. And it doesn't take long. You can do the same thing. The Jewish father to his son, whether the son is two years old, twenty years old, or sixty-five years old, says, bless you, my son. I love you, son. Then he gives him a big old hug and a big old kiss. Makes all the difference in the world. Now, as fellas, we hug and kiss our girls, but you know when the boys get a little older, they're hesitant to do that. I got to tell you, when I heard Bill Glaz, though my son and I have a wonderful relationship together. It's close as ninety-nine and nine-ten percent of all fathers and sons are. But when I heard Bill Glaz, I started back to hugging my boy and telling him how much I loved him. And a beautiful relationship became even more beautiful. And I see my son today, and he's the president and CEO of our company. I no longer stick my hand out to shake his hand. I see him on the golf course or in church, and if he's got a three or four corporate clients in his office, I no longer shake hands with my boy, wherever he is. I give him a big old hug. That's what we need to do. With our kids, we need to do that. That's appreciation for them, and that gives them significance, express availability, and that gives them importance, express affection, and that makes them lovable. We need to do

those things. Powerful stuff. Raising positive kids in a

negative world. I have six children, as you know, and you know, that has been in our home since day one.

It has changed our life. This area of, I've been vigilant about teaching our children manners, and now I've got my oldest sons getting ready to go off to college and play ball and do all that stuff. My oldest daughters, a champion horse rider, and but gratitude and manners and those simple little fundamentals. It

seems right now, you were years ahead of your time. It seems the culture has slipped even further, and

these principles are more true and

more needed even today, Zig, than the day you recorded that. No, it's even more powerful and even more important. It's tragic that parents don't really pay the proper attention as their children grow up because if the husband and wife get along, the kids know about it. If they don't, the kids know about that too, and worry comes about. First of all, you acknowledge that you're not the perfect father, but you do love your children. I love you, and I have a brilliant thoughts about your future and what you can do with what we now know that we did not know five years ago. I'm going to work with you and for you, and I'm going to love you forever. And if husband and wife never let their kids see them fussing and fighting, they won't worry about divorce on you. We've been married though for 60 plus years. I still caught my wife every day. That's a wise move. My wife's going to be watching this video, so it's going to be up and handy for me.

She's going to be asking me for that stuff now.

You'll like always tell people, if my wife ever leaves me, I'm going with her. Is that a great line or what? That's what he said. She's like the American Express to me. I don't leave home without

her. And that's part of the deal. All your kids are different. My son Alex is just not a hugger. Alex, and so I always come over to Alex, and I'm always hugging on Alex. And Alex comes like, I get dead, whatever you need. I get there. Okay, dad, this must be some Irish thing. You need this. Okay. That's fine, dad. But that's the reason now, because I've been listening to that guy for years. And I don't want to go visit you in prison. You understand me? Straighten up. One of the beautiful things with Zig that happened, a lot of different little neat things. But here's what I can tell. I'll tell you two things. The one was just inspiring to me. Zig and the Red have been married for 62 years. And we're talking and he goes, it was September 18, 1944. 914. It was the YWCA in Jackson, Mississippi. That's the first time I set eyes on her. And I thought, wow. I got to make up a story like that for me in Beverly. I got to do something like that. But he has this kind of commitment, his kind of heart. And he shared that over and over again. And it's just powerful stuff. One of the things I said, I said, we're living in a world right now where a lot of folks are having trouble. And they've had, we have blended families, we have so much divorce. There's been so many challenges, so many challenges and relationships. And you know, on an audience's side, there's been certainly many people's heartache and hurt and pain from the past and all those kinds of things. And my advice, my question to him was, I said, well, Zig, you know, you've created the optimum, we should all shoot for the optimum. What happens when the glass gets broke? And he said, here's the be all and end all of everything. He said, one, love them with everything you got. He said, two, if you can find one thing to have in common with the person you were in relationship with, agree on how to love your kids. And I thought, you know, that is profound advice in a world that needs that stuff. And you know, where's all the dads in the room? Let me see your hands. Where's all the fathers? Okay. Okay. Dads, our job cannot just consist of turning off the lights and yelling. Okay. Although that is a major part of the job. When we sign on for this deal, we got to really commit to it. And I do believe, and one of the things that I think that's part of, you know, the passion I have. And now at Mastermind, we're talking about a lot of different things. But if guys step up and say, okay, this is what it means to be a man. You know, the movie say, here's what it means to be a man. But we need to step up in different ways. And if you have a child in this world, you got to step up and be a real man and be a real father and lead and lead by love. And I think that's one of the things that I got over and over and over from Zeg. And I think one of the things that needs to make a comeback right now is men need to come back and be men. Be real fathers. Love their wives unconditionally and love their kids unconditionally. I think that would be a great

comeback. You

know, this recording is 13 years old, which means, you know, my kids are all grown now. But like I mentioned, you know, raising positive kids in a negative world was playing every day in our house through the speaker system, in our car every day. And it had a huge influence in contributing to the well-being of our family life. You know, people who attend our mastermind, I've been blessed for the 22 years when we do a mastermind, I have my family sitting in the front row. And people are always kind of taken back by our kids and held together and how into it they are. And they're kind of a product of all this stuff we teach. And when I think about, you know, what made our family, our family, well, I thank the good Lord above for His grace and mercy. I need to thank a fantastic wife in Beverly. But I'm also thankful to Mr. Ziegler. He helped me raise positive kids. He gave me content and shared insights that really we did infuse and believed in our heart of hearts were true. And it's made all the difference. And so as we finish up today, this was a very emotional thing to bring to all of you. This man played a huge part in my development as a human being. And I'm very, very thankful to him. I miss you, Zieg. I love you. And may the roads rise up to meet you. And may the wind always be at your back. May the rain fall soft upon your fields and the sunshine warm upon your face. And until we meet again, Ziegler, I know God has you. And

how long is it?