How to Heal Anxiety and Avoidance in a Relationship

Stephanierig: At the beginning of an anxious, avoidant relationship, you'll usually have a lot of sexual intensity. As things become more serious, as that initial chemical rush tapers off, what will typically happen is the avoidant partner starts to pull away sexually. So there are these really noticeable drop offs in their interest level in sex. And for the anxious partner, that sends the alarm bells ringing big time because not only did that initial period of sexual intensity feel really good for the anxious person, but the anxious person has a tendency to make it mean something that the avoidant person doesn't. When sexual intensity shifts and all of a sudden is a little bit lacking,