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How to Get a Designer Owie Heartbreak
When you fall in love, your attachment dynamic and imprint from your parents port right over to your romantic partner. To the human nervous system, familiar is coded as safe. You can get a designer owie with someone who during the relationship, you teach them how to love you the way you never got it literally. Conflict is like going to the gym: It has to rip and then grow back. Every time you have a conflict with your partner, if you know the technology of how to alchemize that conflict into intimacy, which is a skill set for life.