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450: How to maximize your time & stop waiting for weekends | Award-winning happiness researcher Cassie Holmes, Ph.D.

The mindbodygreen Podcast

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Happiness Is Not About the Hours

We want to be happy but what we really don't want is to look back on our years and Wish we had done something else Or wish that we had paid more attention. 75% of these folks say that the thing they're most proud of is Their relationships oftentimes with their family. The thing that they regret most is not spending enough time in those relationships They're cultivating those relationships. What's important gets picked up in whether it's a time tracking or reflecting on moments of joy or Asking an elder what they are most proud of All of these exercises that I share across the book happy hour But it is by understanding what matters to you. We haven't even talked about purpose? Let

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There is so much extraordinary happiness if if we but notice and if we don't notice and if we don't savor it then It's passed and it's lost and you know, it's a missed moment and a lot of the the work that were the sort of happiness work and Actually was really picked up in In the course as well as in writing the book that a lot of it is about Avoiding regret so yes, we want to be happy But what we really don't want is to look back on our years and Wish we had done something else Or wish that we had paid more attention and one of the exercises that I have And that I encourage folks to do is to Identify something someone who's towards closer to the end of their life whom from your perspective has done it right Who's lived a good life and who seems happy and Interview them ask them. What was your greatest source of pride and also? What was your greatest source of regret and? in having my students do this over the years I've compiled the responses from these really admired elders who have succeeded in so many dimensions and The consistency of what people share is what they're most proud of It's remarkable. It's like 75% of these folks say that the thing they're most proud of is Their relationships oftentimes with their family and The thing that they regret most is not spending enough time in those relationships They're cultivating those relationships and I think that that is Is notable for us as we're making decisions now About how we spend our hours, but it's informed by what life we want to live and Taking that broader perspective and we have found in my research that People who actually take a broader perspective of their time thinking in terms of their years and their life overall Instead of hour by hour they're happier because actually and they also report greater meaning in their life and greater satisfaction in their life and They're happier because they spend their hours on what's important rather than just what seems urgent and What's important gets picked up in whether it's a time tracking or reflecting on moments of joy or Asking an elder what they are most proud of All of these exercises that I share across the book happy hour But it is by understanding what matters to you. What are your values? What is your purpose and we haven't even talked about purpose? Let's
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close with purpose.

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