The Protest Language of Attachment

If you recorded a video of mom's face as she is interacting with the baby and then showed that video to the baby, the baby's not going to be calm and happy. Why? Because what matters is the synchrony between the mother and the child. After about a minute of responsive synchronous back and forth interaction, after a short period of that, the mother puts a blank expression on her face. Her face goes blank. And you see the child begin to dysregulate. This is the beginning of what we call protest in attachment language. It's all over the Psalms. It's in the book of Job. The writer says to God, you were here a moment ago