Are Relationships a History?

Relationships kind of like get cast into their own category if like oh you're in love it should be great or hey if I need to explicitly talk to my partner about my needs that's a sign that you're in a great relationship. A lot of people that well why do you need to do that like why can't you just read your partner's mind and it's bizarre how relationships somehow fall out of this like do the work mentality. The more time has gone on the more we expect of marriage, he says. Marriage became this vehicle for self-actualization after 1960s countercultural revolution in which our partner is supposed to support us and help us be more ourselves.