Sally Kohn: As a queer person, i just feel that the coming out narrative is so simplistic. She says she didn't come out to her mam as gay until she was 50 years old. Sae jones: I think even ginder, i think we have a little bit more space,. it's even like their space, to say, i'm a girly girl. This is the seventeenth year we've been podcasting to make a difference. Sign up for o letter on our web site and tell us what matters to you.